http://lisakifttherapy.com/therapy-counseling/therapy-counseling-articles/working-through-the-past-with-family-of-origin-style-therapy/?utm_source=rss&utm_medium=rss&utm_campaign=working-through-the-past-with-family-of-origin-style-therapy Tools for Marriage, Relationship and Emotional Health. Articles, tips, advice. Tue, 22 May 2012 16:49:45 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.2 http://lisakifttherapy.com/therapy-counseling/therapy-counseling-articles/working-through-the-past-with-family-of-origin-style-therapy/comment-page-1/#comment-2889 Janet Sun, 06 Jun 2010 10:29:55 +0000 http://lisakifttherapy.com/?p=344#comment-2889 I'm having a problem with my son who was adopted at birth and who is blaming me for almost everything in particular there's an underlying belief that he need not have been adopted because the benefit system would have been sufficient. I'm not going to waver from my belief that I made the right decision at the time. He acknowledges he cannot trust in a relationship, believing that he's been hurt by the person; he cannot rationalise behaviour and walk away from an untrustworthy person. In fact if we analyse the childhood of his adoptive father and my own childhood as well as my son's it would seem that no one's childhood is perfect, which I suspect is the norm. Ironically he's achieved American Sports Association qualifications in Sports Psychology. Can you recommend a book I could give him for his birthday about adult expectations. I’m having a problem with my son who was adopted at birth and who is blaming me for almost everything in particular there’s an underlying belief that he need not have been adopted because the benefit system would have been sufficient. I’m not going to waver from my belief that I made the right decision at the time.
He acknowledges he cannot trust in a relationship, believing that he’s been hurt by the person; he cannot rationalise behaviour and walk away from an untrustworthy person.
In fact if we analyse the childhood of his adoptive father and my own childhood as well as my son’s it would seem that no one’s childhood is perfect, which I suspect is the norm.
Ironically he’s achieved American Sports Association qualifications in Sports Psychology. Can you recommend a book I could give him for his birthday about adult expectations.

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