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		<title>The Pain of an Affair:  Recovering from Infidelity by James W. Walkup, D.Min, MFT</title>
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		<pubDate>Mon, 14 May 2012 00:05:10 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Lisa Brookes Kift, MFT</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[If you learn of infidelity in your marriage or relationship, your life can get turned upside down.  You may even feel as though you are going crazy, in an emotional washing machine. If you have just found out about the infidelity, you feel like everything you had believed is now false.  The person you thought you [...]]]></description>
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		<title>Being in the Moment and Why it Matters</title>
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		<pubDate>Wed, 25 Apr 2012 21:24:48 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Lisa Brookes Kift, MFT</dc:creator>
				<category><![CDATA[Anger Management]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Anxiety]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Depression]]></category>
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		<description><![CDATA[Mindfulness.  Presence.  Being in the moment. All three of the above essentially mean the same thing &#8211; and practicing them can bring you more emotional and relationship health.  It&#8217;s a practice, a reconditioning and training of your mind that can be done in meditation &#8211; or in every day life simply bringing your attention to things you [...]]]></description>
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		<title>Reflections on Gratitude &#8211; Even for the Hard Stuff by Linda Graham, MFT</title>
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		<pubDate>Thu, 12 Apr 2012 20:06:23 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Lisa Brookes Kift, MFT</dc:creator>
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		<category><![CDATA[tools to practice gratitude]]></category>

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		<description><![CDATA[Gratitude works its magic &#8211; to buffer us from falling into swamps of grudge, trauma and suffering in the first place, or pulling ourselves out of those swamps once we&#8217;ve woken up to knowing that we&#8217;re not in our right mind or heart space anymore &#8211; by bringing us to the experiences of loving awareness [...]]]></description>
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		<title>Men, Why Empathy in Relationships Matters and How you Can Step it Up</title>
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		<pubDate>Wed, 04 Apr 2012 22:35:26 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Lisa Brookes Kift, MFT</dc:creator>
				<category><![CDATA[Healthy Marriages]]></category>
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		<category><![CDATA[Marriage / Relationships]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Men]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Relationship Articles]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[empathy in relationships]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[empathy study]]></category>
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		<description><![CDATA[A recent article in ScienceDaily.com is titled, &#8220;Women Happier in Relationships Where Men Feel Their Pain.&#8221;  Those of us in the field of relationship therapy have known that empathy is a cornerstone of a healthy, connected relationship.  However, men and women actually want different emotional payoffs from each other.  The study by the American Psychological Association [...]]]></description>
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		<title>Personal Baggage:  Lighten Your Load and Improve Your Relationships by Tammie Day</title>
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		<pubDate>Mon, 02 Apr 2012 14:43:53 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Lisa Brookes Kift, MFT</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[We all carry baggage, some more than others.  We start collecting items to stuff in our suitcases of experiences from the day we are born in our family of origin.  Other experiences accumulated in our youth and along the path of our lives can leave many of us dragging along our junk which unfortunately has a tendency to negatively [...]]]></description>
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		<title>20 Relationship Tips:  Give Your Relationship the Attention it Deserves by Richard Nicastro, PhD</title>
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		<pubDate>Sat, 31 Mar 2012 00:15:09 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Lisa Brookes Kift, MFT</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[Let’s face it: there is a staggering volume of marriage/relationship help advice out there. Any Internet search on the topic will give you page after page of relationship “How to’s” and “What not to do’s.” Depending on your perspective, this can be either good news (the easy availability of helpful information) or bad news (trying [...]]]></description>
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		<title>The Rise of Depression in America:  What&#8217;s Going On?</title>
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		<pubDate>Mon, 26 Mar 2012 16:30:51 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Lisa Brookes Kift, MFT</dc:creator>
				<category><![CDATA[Depression]]></category>
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		<category><![CDATA[Dr. Andrew Weil]]></category>
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		<description><![CDATA[Depression has been on the rise and many are noticing this country to be the most “depressed” it’s ever been.  One could point to external forces such as the collateral damage of a dismal economy over the last years as being a factor.  But if you look back on U.S. history, it has been argued [...]]]></description>
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		<title>5 Ways to Rewire Your Brain for Happiness and Peace of Mind</title>
		<link>http://lisakifttherapy.com/mental-health/5-ways-to-rewire-your-brain-for-happiness-and-peace-of-mind/?utm_source=rss&amp;utm_medium=rss&amp;utm_campaign=5-ways-to-rewire-your-brain-for-happiness-and-peace-of-mind</link>
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		<pubDate>Mon, 12 Mar 2012 20:34:00 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Lisa Brookes Kift, MFT</dc:creator>
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		<category><![CDATA[Awareness]]></category>
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		<category><![CDATA[Family of Origin Issues]]></category>
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		<description><![CDATA[We all seek happiness.  We all want to feel calm, grounded and avoid being hijacked by our own emotional reactivity.  Thankfully, the recent studies in neuroscience are demonstrating how to do this.  If you find yourself easily stressed, worried and fearful, there are likely personal historical reason for this when your brain learned to be [...]]]></description>
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		<title>Cling Less, Love More by Rick Hanson, PhD</title>
		<link>http://lisakifttherapy.com/mental-health/cling-less-love-more-by-rick-hanson-phd-2/?utm_source=rss&amp;utm_medium=rss&amp;utm_campaign=cling-less-love-more-by-rick-hanson-phd-2</link>
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		<pubDate>Fri, 09 Mar 2012 01:26:28 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Lisa Brookes Kift, MFT</dc:creator>
				<category><![CDATA[Emotional / Mental Health]]></category>
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		<category><![CDATA[attachment to outcomes]]></category>
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		<description><![CDATA[Why? As a rock climber and a parent, I know some physical kinds of clinging are good &#8211; like to small holds or small hands! But clinging as a psychological state has a feeling of tension in it, and drivenness, insistence, obsession, or compulsion. As experiences flow through the mind &#8211; seeing, hearing, planning, worrying, [...]]]></description>
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		<title>Extreme, Everyday Love by Ashley Davis Bush, LCSW</title>
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		<pubDate>Fri, 02 Mar 2012 15:40:12 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Lisa Brookes Kift, MFT</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[A relationship is like a plant: it needs regular attention to stay healthy. Does your plant have enough sunlight, water, air? Is the soil a bit dry . . . are the flowers drooping? With today’s modern, busy lifestyles in which we’re juggling work demands, kid schedules, home maintenance, health concerns, and social commitments, ‘gardening’ [...]]]></description>
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