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		<title>Parents, Do Your Children Know?</title>
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		<pubDate>Wed, 13 Jul 2011 01:02:30 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Lisa Brookes Kift, MFT</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[Much of  what shapes our beliefs about self, others and the world stem from the quality of attachment to parents and primary caregivers.  It impacts self-esteem and the secure base in which we learn to explore the world.  According to Jasmin Lee Cori, LPC and the author of The Emotionally Absent Mother, &#8220;Studies show that [...]
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		<title>14 Ways to Make Repair Attempts in Your Relationship</title>
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		<pubDate>Mon, 20 Jun 2011 20:38:15 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description><![CDATA[Couples argue.  This is a reality.  Some escalate to damaging levels of conflict while others manage to keep it manageable, where no harm is ultimately done.  What&#8217;s the difference between these couples?  John Gottman, PhD, refers to successful repair attempts as the &#8220;happy couple&#8217;s secret weapon.&#8221;  The beginning stages of conflict are wrought with possible paths to take, some helpful and [...]
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		<title>11 Secrets of Happy Couples</title>
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		<pubDate>Tue, 03 May 2011 22:49:07 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Lisa Brookes Kift, MFT</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[When you see the words, &#8220;happy couples&#8221; what comes up for you?  You probably know a few of them.  They may be friends of yours or a couple you&#8217;re aquainted with &#8211; and they always seem to be happy.  What&#8217;s their secret?  How do they do it?  Relationship research (Dr. John Gottman and others) has demonstrated [...]
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		<title>4 &#8220;Must-Knows&#8221; for a Happy, Healthy and Connected Relationship</title>
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		<pubDate>Mon, 28 Mar 2011 20:04:17 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Lisa Brookes Kift, MFT</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[After attending the Psychotherapy Networker Symposium in Washington DC this past week, I came away with some very important and research supported &#8220;tidbits&#8221; from some of the top thinkers in couples and relationship health.  If you are currently in a relationship, consider the following list and how it might improve your understanding of it.  If you are not [...]
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		<title>How to Give your Brain a Fighting Chance in an Argument by Marsha Lucas, PhD</title>
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		<pubDate>Sat, 16 Oct 2010 10:21:04 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Lisa Brookes Kift, MFT</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[From your nervous system’s point of view, there are a fairly limited number of ways to respond to an argument.  You can find yourself in one of the knee-jerk reactions such as fight, flight, or freeze. You can roar and bite, you can run like hell, you can freeze like a deer in the headlights…Or, [...]
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		<title>Release the Flow of Oxytocin for Emotional and Relationship Health</title>
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		<pubDate>Wed, 13 Oct 2010 06:44:08 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Lisa Brookes Kift, MFT</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[Pssst&#8230;have you heard of oxytocin?  If you&#8217;re committed to improving your emotional and relationship health, it&#8217;s something you might want to learn a bit more about.  In the article, Love Potion #1?: Human Hormone Increases Positive Communication Between Couples (ScienceDaily.com), the question was raised as to whether oxytocin might assist couples in discussing difficult topics by reducing [...]
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		<title>Love and Stockholm Syndrome: The Mystery of Loving an Abuser by Joe Carver, Ph.D.</title>
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		<pubDate>Wed, 07 Jul 2010 06:00:34 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Lisa Brookes Kift, MFT</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[People are often amazed at their own psychological conditions and reactions. Those with depression are stunned when they remember they’ve thought of killing themselves. Patients recovering from severe psychiatric disturbances are often shocked as they remember their symptoms and behavior during the episode. A patient with Bipolar Disorder recently told me “I can’t believe I [...]
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		<title>How to Manage Negative Emotions in Your Relationship</title>
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		<pubDate>Wed, 09 Jun 2010 21:34:30 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Lisa Brookes Kift, MFT</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[Did you know that mindfulness can be a powerful tool in your relationships &#8211; intimate or otherwise? Consider for a moment the last time you were significantly emotionally triggered by someone. You may have been really angry, frustrated, sad or any number of other distressing and uncomfortable states. If the emotions took you over in [...]
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		<title>Experiencing Relationship Roadblocks?  Consider Your Attachment Style</title>
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		<pubDate>Tue, 09 Mar 2010 19:23:52 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Lisa Brookes Kift, MFT</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[If you are one of the many out there who finds yourself in repetitive patterns of unhealthy relationships, perhaps you might benefit from identifying your attachment style – which not only could answer some fundamental questions for you around your relationship “triggers” but also provide clues as to why you attract certain types of people. [...]
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		<title>The Brain and Relationships Series: Implications for Couples Counseling, Book Resources</title>
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		<pubDate>Wed, 04 Nov 2009 01:01:22 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Lisa Brookes Kift, MFT</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[This is the fourth and last article in my Brain and Relationships Series, following on the heels of my last article, “How New Relationship Experiences Can Shift Core Beliefs” When it comes to the &#8220;brain and relationships&#8221; we&#8217;ve been looking at adult attachment styles (how people seek or don&#8217;t seek relational connections), a little about the physiology and [...]
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