Mindfulness in Relationships 
5 Ways to Stay Cool in the Face of Another’s Emotional Reactivity (0)
I had a recent experience that tested my patience and challenged me to remain calm in the face of aggressive, critical words. My initial instinct (my primal lizard brain in activation) was to fight back, defend and point out the ways in which this person had totally missed the mark. But I didn’t. This choice [...]
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Mindfulness and Keeping it Real in Relationships by Marsha Lucas, PhD
There’s a myth that won’t seem to die in popular understanding of anger. Back in the 1960’s, psychology (doing the best it could as a very young science) put forth the notion that “venting” your anger, letting it all hang out, was the way to go if you wanted to be emotionally healthy. Venting (a.k.a. [...]
Your Emotional Leftovers – and How to Clear Out the Fridge by Re-wiring Your Brain
Neuropsychologist and writer, Marsha Lucas, PhD believes that emotional leftovers are similar to leftovers in your fridge. They’re kind of messy – and much of the time they get old and you might even delay their removal longer than desired. The following is a permission granted adaptation of her October 2010 newsletter, Rewire Your Brain for Love. We’re wired so that [...]
How to Give your Brain a Fighting Chance in an Argument by Marsha Lucas, PhD
From your nervous system’s point of view, there are a fairly limited number of ways to respond to an argument. You can find yourself in one of the knee-jerk reactions such as fight, flight, or freeze. You can roar and bite, you can run like hell, you can freeze like a deer in the headlights…Or, [...]
